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The Pause Button
Space between the trigger and the response.
Something happens. A comment, a memory, a look. Before you know it you have already reacted. The words are out, the mood has shifted, and you are left wondering why you responded the way you did.
There is a space between what happens and what you do next. It is small. It is quiet. And it is yours. Pushing the pause button means stepping into that space on purpose instead of letting old habits decide for you.
You do not have to react at the speed of your trigger. You can breathe. You can notice. You can choose. The pause is not weakness or hesitation, it is you taking the pen back into your own hand.
Hold onto this
You are not your first reaction. You are what you choose in the pause.